🦋 You Got: Fawn
You learned that the way to stay safe...
…was to make sure no one was upset.
Not with you.
Not around you.
Not ever.
So you adapted.
You became kind, helpful, soft, sweet, accommodating.
You smoothed over tension before it could start.
You made sure they were okay — even if you were not.
This wasn’t weakness.
It was intelligence.
You learned to read the room like a psychic.
To sense micro-shifts in tone, energy, posture.
To anticipate what others needed before they even asked.
Because harmony kept you safe.
And disharmony felt like danger.
But here's the thing...
You’ve been taught that love is earned through self-erasure.
That your worth is in your helpfulness.
That if you're not easy to be around, you're too much.
And now?
You’re tired.
Burnt out.
Invisible — even to yourself.
You say “yes” when you mean “no.”
You feel guilty for resting.
You struggle to know what you actually want.
You’ve built a life of avoiding rejection.
But now you’re rejecting yourself daily just to keep the peace.
The Truth You’re Ready For
You are allowed to disappoint people.
You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to take up space.
Boundaries are not rejection.
Conflict is not collapse.
Saying "no" doesn't make you unlovable — it makes you real.
Start Here:
3 Practices to Reclaim Yourself
âś… Check in before checking on.
Pause and ask, “What am I feeling?” before asking “Are they okay?”
âś… Make micro-boundaries.
Practice tiny no’s: “Not tonight,” “I’ll think about it,” “I need a moment.”
âś… Celebrate discomfort.
Every time you say something honest that feels awkward, you’re rewiring safety.
If someone you love is a Fawner…
❤️ Don’t just take “yes” as an answer — check again.
❤️ Create space for disagreement without punishment.
❤️ Remind them: “I care about you, not just what you do for me.”
You’re not broken. You’re brilliant.
Fawning isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival code.
But now, you’re ready to evolve it.
This is your invitation to return to your center
Without losing your care, your softness, your heart.
Just more you in the room.
More voice.
More truth.
More life.
Keep Going…
Over the next few days, you’ll get emails exploring this pattern in more depth:
Why it forms, how to spot it in daily life, and how to lovingly rewire it.
Until then: breathe deep.
You’ve already taken the first step.